As commanded by vibhav in the comments on the previous post, I had to write a post on this and it has been long due. It got a little delayed because I left for home (am still there). So, here it is. In case the previous post left any misconceptions, let me clarify that I like written mode of conversation a lot.. in fact, I am dependent on it a lot more than you can imagine. In the last post I just wanted to say that written text can be misinterpreted very easily.
Text is like voice for most introverts and its significance cannot be over-emphasised. In fact I think I enjoy writing more than reading, given that what I write is read by people. You might consider this self-obsession. Whatever. So here are some "opportunities" I can think of from the top of my head.
I normally do not argue with anyone for anything and I hardly ever feel the need to convince anyone about my point of view unless the person is very close. In fact I don't have a strong point of view about anything. But there are times when it is fun to argue and to 'win' an argument. Just for kicks. However I am not so very quick with arguments. This is where the written text comes in handy. In college, we used to have newsgroups for internal discussions. There were these certain people who are so so well read that they seem to know everything about everything. Almost. I distinctly remember those occasions when I jumped into some argument and kind of 'defeated' them. It felt real good, you know. I know it sounds stupid and foolish and kiddish and any other adjective you might want to add. But it is a lot of fun.
What else? Well, less things give a smile better than reading something you wrote long back.. or reading some older conversations. The main purpose of this blog is that too. Ek baar kabhi first year of college mein personal diary likhne ka josh chadha tha mujhe. I wrote all kind of things there and it was crappier and hence even more fun than this blog. A few days later I misplaced it and then suddenly got hold of it one fine day a year or so later. The delight on reading that at that time was immense. Don't know if anyone else would enjoy it but I loved it. I regret having not kept my childhood essays. It would have been great fun to read those. I used to write pretty good in those days. At least that is how it seemed to me :D
Writing helps me distil out my thoughts and they become very clear when put on paper. This helps a lot even in research. This is one thing I have learnt from my advisor. Earlier I would find writing out the ideas formally a very boring exercise. While writing proofs formally still gets a little boring at times it is really really helpful to be clear about the thought process.
There are some people I would very much love to talk to but I would never ever go up and talk to. Simply because I won't know how to do so. However writing to them is much easier. At times just reading what these people write is satisfying. I can't explain how. But, for example, the blogosphere helps in this regard. There are a lot of blogs in my blogroll of people I have never ever talked to and probably never will and who don't even know I read their blog. It is still fun. So written text is useful you see.. be it others' or mine.
There are some things that are so easy to say in writing but are very embarrassing or almost impossible to say in verbal communication. Even to the closest of people. I won't elaborate on this, I guess. In fact I think if/when I get married I will end up having a lot of conversation with that certain someone in writing :P
Ok, enough self stripping for the day ... baaki phir kabhi.. ye blog to rahega hi :)
Interesting post. Definitely, written conversations are easier than face to face ones. You can easily say things and allow the other person to ignore as easily.. and you can easily ignore things the other person comes up with which you're not in a mood to discuss. The burden of presenting a viewpoint instantaneously is not there. Instantaneous reactions are the only things that bring trouble in a conversation.. and they are quite avoidable in the written mode.
ReplyDeleteWritten conversations, e.g Google chats have that amazing convenience of going back to them. Preserves the moments, the love n the hatred, the anger n the care, much better than memory can.
ReplyDeleteBut nothing ever beats a face to face heart to heart, a rare commodity. But puhlease, when you get married don't abandon the verbals for the writtens. The verbals have the body language along. Keep them both coming.
but aage bhi koi post hogi ya nahi, yeh pata nahi ;)
ReplyDeleteGTalk ki yaad dila di....lol. Nice post.
ReplyDeleteWritten conversations really make a few things easier.... when you know that the other person is not in a mood to listen you can drop in an email (I should not talk of my personal life here, but still...that is what happens when my very best friend grossly misunderstands me and doesn't even want me to explain....and I know he'd read and send back at least a curt/angry reply, but not listen or talk it out. Lol).
Written text makes conversations with the self easier...when you maintain a diary, a blog...or just scribble a poem on a scrap paper...
When it comes to people though, I guess we need an equal share of both kinds- be it face-to-face or written.
Very nice post :)
Dooriyon ke maayne kuchh yun badale hain zahaan mein dekh..
ReplyDeleteKe tu nazar aana hi band hua rakhte hi kadam mere watan mein!
:D
@Vik
ReplyDeleteagree to what you said.. not much more to say
@Phoenix
Google talk rocks for precisely the reason you mentioned.
wo fully mere control mein nahi hai .. but will try :)
@Adi
Sir, ab itna talent nahi hai ki roz ek post likh sakoon ... but they will keep coming .. thode time gaps ho sakte hain depending on various parameters
@Tapasya
yes, and you can say things you might have been embarrassed to say directly .. waise, a digression but its strange and probably a little funny how much we try to classify things into those meant to be said in a public place and those meant to be said in a private place even though most things personal are similar for most of us. How much better it would be if this difference wasn't there
If it is hard to get what you need, one should learn to "need" what one gets .. formula no. 0 of being happy :)
@Vik
Dooriyon ke maaynon ki kya baat karein
Yahaan to watniyat ke maayne badal gaye hain
Ek parinda kuchh der zara door kya ja baitha hai
Apne watan ke log hi use pardesi kehne lage hain
:D
PS: Internet connection at home was too bad
Agreed...
ReplyDeleteAnything can be said in a written conversation but a face to face has its own strong points. :)
Bilkul! Didn't deny that :)
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